Month: July 2018
Some random thoughts…
I’ve really struggled with a title for this post and with good reason I think. I’ve had a few things that I’ve wanted to write a post about but between commitments and being sick for the last week or with a double ear infection (me, not Isabella) it’s just been tough.
As our journey as parents continues it’s amazing to not only see Isabella’s milestones, but some of our friends joining us on the journey with families of their own. Some of them have begun to see us as resource. I think everyone goes through it, but it’s always weird when you become an “expert” even though you feel like you still know just about nothing. Not only are we “experts” in baby, but obviously in craniofacial abnormalities (cleft lip and palate are two, but there are many other things that fall into that category) and the special issues that come along with those.
July is National Cleft and Craniofacial Awareness Month
When I worked in radio, each year we would do a radiothon that benefitted St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital and while I knew we were contributing to a great cause, the stories made the two days extremely long and emotionally draining. It brought our entire group together but also made me really consider how lucky I was as a child and as a friend to not know anyone personally impacted…but then that changed on December 8, 2016.
I was impacted.
Erin was impacted.
Our parents…our families…our friends….all impacted…directly.
To the extent of some of those St. Jude Radiothon stories? No. But still impacted…directly.
Thinking back over some of the conversations that I’ve had in the last 18 or so months one sort of sticks out. I was talking to my grandmother about everything and it was only when she said that she had never actually seen a child with a cleft that I realized how many people may go their entire lives and never understand how truly wonderful not only modern science is but also how insane the development process is for a new baby.
The doctors told us that Isabella’s cleft lip / palate was decided before our doctors could even determine if it was one or two babies. (Not sure if I ever mentioned that before, but for a long time they weren’t sure if there was a second heartbeat or if it was just an echo of Isabella’s).
By the stage shown above the cleft was already there. About 8 weeks gestation. That’s it. Before most people even go to the doctor it was already determined.
On December 8th we had a momentary set back. 1000s of questions and the internet (those two don’t go well together). But we got through it, past it, and now looking back…it was such needless worry. This kid is just the same as every other kid out there. Smart, funny, HUGE personality, and really outgoing.
So while we are spreading the awareness of her cleft, we also want to spread the awareness of her in general. As our doctors told us from the beginning, it’s part of her, but it in NO way defines her.
The dishwashing sucks…
You are probably thinking, “What?”
Well, after 14 or so months of daily cleaning of bottles, nipples, and pump parts…I’M DONE!
So one thing that none of those baby books or anyone tells you is the amount of dishwashing you do when your wife pumps and your baby needs to drink from a bottle.
So before I get into that, I just want to tell everyone how awesome my wife has been through what is probably one of those weirdest things that you can do in your life. From the odd “closeness” you got with me in the hospital and those first few days and the small celebrations we had early to finally ridding ourselves of the pump just a few weeks ago it’s been a journey.
So about that dishwashing…it’s every night. And with all of the parts of the bottles and pump it would take me about 20-30 minutes hand washing everything; and that was after we figured out that we could do some of the parts in the dishwasher (which also meant we ran the dishwasher daily as well).
So to any new parents or soon-to-be new parents, if you are planning to bottle feed and pump…you better be ready to get comfy in front of the sink. What is funny now is at the end of the night, after Isabella has gone to bed and we are getting all of our “night stuff” done before we head to bed, it feels like I’m missing something…then I remember, I don’t have 20 more minutes of dishes to do.
What’s new with Isabella?
At this point Isabella is 14 months going on 14 years. Little Ms. Independent is climbing on and off of furniture, steps, running around the backyard, and more. She loves giving the dogs hugs and kisses and is never short on something to say. (Although she’s still not saying many “real” words.)
We head back to the Lancaster Cleft Palate Clinic in August and expect them to recommend speech therapy for her. We knew this would be a likely scenario for her and it will do nothing but help her down the line. We’re all good with it. With that said, I’m scared for when she can talk, because she’s already super animated…with words, I don’t know that I’ll be able to stop laughing.
Here are a few recent pics.
Thank you…again.
I feel like I say this at the end of every blog, but thank you. Thank you for supporting us, for checking out the blog and for following our story. Who knows where it will go next. We shall see.
If you want to help support the Lancaster Cleft Palate Clinic (our clinic) here is a link to donate. Obviously anything to support them is not expected nor needed, but with it being July I wanted to share the link. If you do happen to donate, please add the note that it is in honor of Isabella Hannaford.